Graduation through each phase of life requires transition.

Once, a client explained why he enjoys astrology, something like this:

"Each day there are opportunities - windows of opportunity - that open and close, sometimes opening so wide they're undeniable. If we are unavailable to take advantage of opportunities as they arise, that's okay, they will come again... However, sometimes the window is so big and easy to step through, that we are outright denying ourselves opportunities if we find ourselves intoxicated, fearful, preoccupied, or stuck doing something else. I like to hear what someone else says the big opportunities are that are coming up for me. It's how I began to notice them for myself, watched myself take advantage of them, reaped the benefits, and became motivated to stay clean and clear: for opportunities. For exciting, life-affirming reasons. Who knows whether the opportunity I have today will ever be so easy again?"

In education, these are called 'learning opportunities' or 'teachable moments.' The thing teachers and parents learn is to notice and take advantage of them, by asking the student questions and allowing them to hear their intuition answer... teaching them to trust themselves.